Faint Marks to Dark Scribbles

On March 14, 2016, I got a long awaited email from Dee. My non-identifying information had been scanned and sent to me. I requested a hard copy as well. I wanted my proof in hand. The intermediary's job is also to take the identifying information and try and contact the biological parents. If located, the biological parents are given an opportunity to consent to contact with the adoptee. Here is the email from Dee:

I have attached your adoption summary.  The is very limited information on your history in your adoption file.  Based on the law, I am not have to provide any identifying information for your birth family until they consent based on the Confidential Intermediary law. 

I have begun the research for your birth parents, however I have not been successful in locating any information for your birth mother or father based on information listed in the file.  I was able to find information for your legal father (he was married to your birth mother) at the time of your birth.  I have left a message for him to contact me.  My hope is that he may have some information or know someone that can help me make contact with her.

I will put the adoption summary information in the mail today and keep you abreast of any findings.


Yep. My birth mother was married. She was married at the time of my birth. She was not married to my biological father. I was thrown for a loop. Now I should have known to be open and expect the unexpected, however this was a bit different from the short story that I'd been told over the years. More questions were beginning to rise. Over the phone, Dee said that in order to minimize confusion, my birth mother's husband was being called my "legal father". Well of course! How could this be more confusing!(Rock with me on this blog. Obviously I am an emotionally expressive writer... and person.) My head was spinning. What twisted triangle was this?! Blank spaces were now being colored in, and the markings were not pretty...